Choosing Your Battles

Whoever said that parenting is tough is spot on target. It’s a fulfilling job but it ain’t easy. Raising a child takes a lot of patience and requires some sense of humor through the process. With all the things that we need to teach our child such as independence, values, etc. I learned that it helps to choose our battles.

When faced with a head on collision with Yui and I feel that I’m about to lose it, I consider these three things:

1. Will she learn from this experience?

2. Won’t she hurt herself or others?

3. Won’t this conflict with other things we’re teaching her?

Sometimes it can be tricky but if the answer to all three questions is YES, then I’ll let her have that round. There were times when I’ve applied this to her:

When we went on a trip to Singapore, I had our clothes planned out carefully since we only have limited supply. The morning that we’re preparing for Universal Studios, Yui insisted to wear her pajamas. Since this will not hurt her and we even saved one clean outfit, I let her have it. She also learned that in this family it’s okay to make your own choices as long as you live with it. Besides, it was a Kai lan pajama and didn’t really look much like pjs at all.

Grocery shopping is really stressful for us since our very hyper daughter loves to run around. When she refuses to listen and is becoming very difficult to deal with, we bring her home immediately. There are times though that giving her options and allowing her to make decisions make the trip more bearable. When she wanted Fruit Loops but we wanted the local version Fruity Loops instead, we make her choose between the Fruit Loops’ bird or Fruity Loops’ monkey (the designs in the packages). That way we see it as a win-win situation. She got her cereal and we got to have a somewhat peaceful trip and the cheaper cereal alternative.

Sometimes it helps to have different tactics on hand when you go on (grocery) battle. Through these trips I learned when to fight it with her, when to be more gentle and when to be firm even if it means cutting our trip short.

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Tuna Pesto Spread

Mondays are Daddy Bunny’s merienda schedule. It’s that time when he’s to bring in the merienda for his group at the office. We try to make different foods such as carbonara, pesto pasta or our experiment Mac n chiz whiz. Last Monday, he brought this tuna pesto spread that we experimented. Daddy loved it when he did a taste test at home but we’re not sure how it will fare in the office. Fortunately, it was a big hit in the office! Simut sarap talaga. And as one of Daddy Bunny’s officemates said: “It’s refreshing!”

Tuna Pesto Spread

Makes about 10 sandwiches.

Ingredients:

1 can of Century tuna flakes in oil (original)

1 can of Century tuna (spicy)

1 medium white onions, chopped

1 200g Lady’s Choice Real Mayonnaise

4-5 tbsp. Pesto sauce

 Mix together all ingredients in a bowl or directly in a lunch box. Viola! You’ve got something to satisfy your afternoon hunger.

My First IPL Session

Getting a long-term, if not permanent, underarm hair removal procedure such as laser or IPL has crossed my mind several times already. The downside is that it can be really costly and a burn in my pocket is something unacceptable what with milk, diapers and other family expenses as higher priority. Good thing there are discount voucher sites now such as Ensogo which offer discounts to different establishments including beauty treatments. Upon consulting a friend who has already undergone IPL treatment, I decided to try it myself in case there’s a good deal available. When I saw the Skin Metro IPL discount at Ensogo, I grabbed the opportunity since their QC clinic is just walking distance from our place. I had my first session last January 30. It was a Monday afternoon but the clinic was buzzing full of patients.

 

I had to wait a few minutes to get served. Although their reception area is just small, they have several magazines and free Wi-fi to keep you entertained while waiting. When I was called, the assistant showed me to a small room (separated by curtains) that has a small bed and the IPL machine.

After changing, she asked me to lie down and we started the procedure. She placed gel in both underarms and then proceeded to the treatment right away. It didn’t hurt at all, I was just startled when I experienced the first flash. It’s like a quick electric jolt. I heard about 6 clicks in my right underarm and 5 on the left. I figured it’s just okay given that I only have fine hair anyway. They gave me a calming cream (for 300 pesos) and instructed me to use that for 3 days after the treatment. All in all, the procedure lasted only 15 minutes. I look forward to the next sessions and see how effective the treatment is.

 

Cheek Tint Mission: Accomplished

After getting over my heartbreak of losing the Penshoppe cheek tint, I’m off to finding the next one that will suit my taste.  I tried different cheek tints including Bench’s Pretty when Pinched tint. I’ve tried it years ago before I discovered Penshoppe but wasn’t satisfied. Despite this, I still gave it another shot this time around. Unfortunately, I developed rashes and Daddy Bunny told me to stop using it.  I told a friend about my dilemma and she gave me a tube of Avon’s lip and cheek tint to try. I tried it on and after testing that its compatible with my skin, I stuck with it. It’s just easy to apply and the color lasts the whole day. So far, I’m satisfied with this one. Avon really does create some fantastic beauty products. 🙂

Avon lip and cheek tint

My Top 5 Android Apps

Ever since Daddy Bunny gave me his Samsung Galaxy S last year, I’ve been hooked on this little Android machine. Even though I’m not a big games app gal, I still enjoy downloading apps from the Market which are mostly for productivity and fun. Aside from the Facebook and Twitter apps, I have several other favorites and below are my top 5 favorite apps.

  5.  Photoshop Express. I’m a huge Photoshop fan and having this in my phone made posting photos to twitter and facebook more fun. I can add effects and borders before I upload them. Or I can just play around with my photos and show them to Yui and we’ll laugh together.

 4. MP3 Music Download. Our ride to and from work became so much fun with the music that we get to listen to. Classic alternative music from the 90’s and early 2000, some Jpop songs and even the fun “I would walk 500 miles” from HIMYM. All of these were easily downloaded from this little app.

 3. MMDA for Android. Who would’ve thought that MMDA can deploy something successful? The traffic situation around Metro Manila can easily be checked with this app before you leave the house so at least you’ll know what to expect and make necessary detours if needed. So far, their traffic reports are accurate and their app even has different views such as System, Map or Line view. I find the line view easier to use. It’s simple and straight forward. Kudos to MMDA for developing this app. 🙂

 2. Cardio Trainer. After downloading several pedometer apps, I decided to stick with this one (even the free version is useful).  With an intuitive menu, different workout options (walking, running, climbing stairs and much more) and even an option to play music while you exercise, this app is one of the most used in my phone. The workout history and number of calories burned add motivation for me to keep moving. It’s so useful and addicting that I lost 7lbs in 3 weeks. True story.

 1. Color Note. I love lists. Grocery shopping lists. To Do lists. Things to buy lists. Name it, I’ll list it. That’s why this very simple app gets the top spot. It’s so simple but very useful. My home screen already has several widgets of lists in different colors. Oh, and did I mention that you can configure different lists in different colors? Colors and Lists. Get my vote. 🙂

Of Dogs and Dragons

I’ve heard a lot of feedback from fellow dog officemates that 2012 is not a good year for us because dogs clash with the dragons. I’m not really a believer of feng shui but with all the things happening to me the past weeks, I’m amazed at how these predictions seem to fit. The start of the year has been such as rollercoaster ride for me and with too much stuff happening and emotional ups and downs, I can barely sit down and blog. Okay, that’s probably a sad excuse for my absence but I’ve got to blame my laziness on something, right? 2012 is just starting but I’ve experienced and learned so much in the past few days to probably get me through this lifetime.

Here are some of the things I’ve learned recently:

1. If you keep something inside you for so long, chances are you’re going to blow off pretty soon.

True, not just in your digestive system but also in relationships. If something bothers us and just keep mum about it, every small detail will annoy and disappoint us causing too much stress and an eventual emotional breakdown.

2. Misery loves company.

When everything was just going haywire, it seems that people around you are just having a lot of issues themselves. The good thing about this though is that by listening to other people’s experiences, you tend to put yours into perspective and see how important or miniscule your problem is. In the process, you not only help someone by being there for them, you also help yourself move on. As they say, happiness shared is happiness multiplied. Sadness shared is sadness divided.

3. Communication is key to every relationship.

As plants need water and sunshine to grow, relationships need communication and an open mind. No matter how tough it may be for any relationship, you’re sure to overcome every misunderstanding and issue with an open mind and an open discussion. If you are honest with your feelings and convey it in a respectful way, you are sure to get what you want out of the conversation. Be it all the hurtful details or an acceptable compromise to a situation, it will help you move forward. Open communication does not only mean a serious closed-door meeting with someone, it can also mean having a light talk on sensitive topics ensuring that you say what you feel and not jump into assumptions or conclusions.

4.  Life sucks. Shit happens. Move on.

That’s just the reality of it so instead of harboring ill feelings, we should just take life in stride and look into a bright future ahead. There are far too many pleasant things that is bound to happen in our life, so one pitfall doesn’t mean the end of us.

5. Two is better than one.

In the end, no matter how hard life can be or no matter how many stones they throw at you, life will be so much bearable if you have someone to get through it. Someone to laugh at all these shit while you grumble. Someone to prepare your meal while you wallow in pain. And just someone to hold your hand while you go through hell.

One of my favorite quotes from my mom is “Life is how you make it.” So no matter how awful my 2012 predictions are, I’m still looking forward to changing all that and making it awesome-r than 2011. I will make it happen. I will make it happy. I will make it successful. I just will. Watch me 🙂